Personal Life Coaching: Stop Fixing and Start Allowing

One of the main errors most people make when attempting to manifest their desires using the law of attraction, is that they set out to "fix" everything in their paths. They begin their journey of personal creation from a judgmental place of harsh criticism. It's as if they say, "This is wrong, therefore, it must be fixed." Then they proceed to use the brain's power of intention (rather than the heart's) to go out and make the necessary corrections in life, as well as in other people.

This mode of behavior can work, at least for a while. But usually what ends up happening is their reality becomes polarized. This is because the brain is polarized. In other words, not only do they get what they want, they also get what they don't want. Opposition swells. Obstacles form. Challenges arise. And while all these scary things are happening, these "life-fixers" are becoming more and more stressed out. Tempers flare and drama ensues.

There are plenty of "positive people" out there who do very well -- at least financially -- at manifesting their dreams and desires. But as long as their intention is egoic, their results will consistently bring to them more problems that they can handle -- right along with the mansion and Mercedes. Many of them become chronically ill because they allow their businesses take priority to their health and well-being. Some never get a chance to enjoy the fruits of their endeavors because they get cancer and die.

The key to implementing the law of attraction for personal creation is to manifest from a place of completeness or wholeness, not a place of neediness. People who set out to fix their lives do so because they judge their lives as being "wrong" or "incomplete." The same thing goes with relationships. Instead of co-dependently looking for another human to be with, however, they are co-dependently looking for a bank account to make them whole. But no amount of money, status, or accomplishment can complete you. This is like chasing a mirage in the desert. When you get there, it's gone.

So, begin your journey of manifestation from a place of wholeness. Instead of setting out to fix everything in your path, begin from a selfless, heart-based place of allowing things to change on their own time, in their own way. Only then will you naturally attract the "ready-made" situations, help, people, and circumstances that will set the stage for your dreams becoming a reality -- without the consequences of stress, drama, conflict, and the failing health to go with it.

Jason Lincoln Jeffers is a spiritual counselor and personal life coach. His online life coaching program incorporates pain-body counseling, wellness coaching, law of attraction coaching, relationship coaching, and astrology readings. As a result, his spiritual counseling sessions will enlighten, inspire, and empower you to realize your physical, mental, and spiritual potential.